Who were you before the world told you who to be?
My past reads like a sad country song, I lost my dad to brain cancer when he was only 22, my mom turned to drugs and remarried a few months later. For more than 2,536 days I lived in hell, my stepdad physically, emotionally, and sexually abused me, robbing me of my childhood and my innocence. I bounced in and out of foster care homes as the state struggled to keep me safe, ultimately asking me to testify against my abuser while my mother sat on his side of the courtroom. I was only 12. I have spent the last 30 years on the path to healing and becoming the definition of a cycle breaker.
I share this because, if you are considering life coaching you likely want someone who isn't just reading from a textbook about pain. You wouldn't go to a broke financial advisor for money advice, it is equally as important to find a qualified person to help you unpack your life and sort through the mess. So while my trauma story may not be identical to yours, I do understand being broken and wanting to put yourself back together.
When the storms are raging in your life it is very difficult to find clarity, your nerves are frayed, energy zapped, and your emotions are a rollercoaster. It makes sense that it would be hard to see the forest through the trees and know how to navigate your way out.
A very common trauma response is hyper-independence, the belief that you have to do everything on your own. While I do believe you will have to do all of the work in your healing journey, you do NOT have to do it alone. The first step to creating the life you've been dreaming of is being brave and asking for help. Changing your story is not easy or quick, but worth it if you are willing to do the work.
Shed limiting beliefs
Cast a vision
Tell your story
Become a cycle breaker
Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's unbecoming everything that isn't you so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place."- A very wise unknown person